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Kinda chic ✨🫶🎙️🧠

Kinda chic ✨🫶🎙️🧠

Eldest daughter core:

What would you add? Comment FIRST AID for a nervous system first aid kit for eldest daughters. 🧠✨

#therapyforwomen #eldestdaughter #eldestdaughterproblems

Eldest daughter core:

What would you add? Comment FIRST AID for a nervous system first aid kit for eldest daughters. 🧠✨

#therapyforwomen #eldestdaughter #eldestdaughterproblems

Hi I’m Hannah 🤝👋

Thought it was time for an intro ✨

• All opinions are my own and do not reflect any group practices I am a part of, any schools I may have attended, the church I attend, or any businesses I am affiliated with.
• If you are a current client you can follow me here if you think it will not prevent your own healing journey, however, I will not follow back a current therapy client for ethical reasons.
• If you know me in real life, please know you can always talk to me about what a post means to you, if you disagree or if you want to know more about what I meant by it.
However, please give me the benefit of the doubt and that I have good intentions of using this platform to educate, inspire, and connect. You can have a different opinion from mine and that’s totally ok | just ask for a conversation and for mutual respect.
it takes a lot to create
content and it has never gotten easier for me.
• when I post about my personal life please know that if it involves other’s stories I have already talked and communicated with them to receive permission. If I didn’t talk to you about the content it’s probably not about you.
• Please keep in mind that I used to be a radio personality and sound engineer. Creating content and writing Bible content along with mental health education is something I’ve been doing on a national level since 2018. I’ve been creating lifestyle and fashion content since 2015. I love what I do and probably won’t stop.
• I know many people have strong opinions about theology and about mental health and about how to use these two fields of study together. In my opinion they go together beautifully and that’s what you will find here.
• Please know that when it comes to faith and what I believe it’s a personal decision. I am a therapist who also believes that Jesus heals. You could also say l am a therapist who is a Christian. My faith gives me the motivation behind therapy, however, it does not change how I practice. You do not have to be a Christian to work with me. I really desire my clients to lead in how they want spirituality to influence their therapy sessions.
I hope these reminders help facilitate a healthy community.

Hi I’m Hannah 🤝👋

Thought it was time for an intro ✨

• All opinions are my own and do not reflect any group practices I am a part of, any schools I may have attended, the church I attend, or any businesses I am affiliated with.
• If you are a current client you can follow me here if you think it will not prevent your own healing journey, however, I will not follow back a current therapy client for ethical reasons.
• If you know me in real life, please know you can always talk to me about what a post means to you, if you disagree or if you want to know more about what I meant by it.
However, please give me the benefit of the doubt and that I have good intentions of using this platform to educate, inspire, and connect. You can have a different opinion from mine and that’s totally ok | just ask for a conversation and for mutual respect.
it takes a lot to create
content and it has never gotten easier for me.
• when I post about my personal life please know that if it involves other’s stories I have already talked and communicated with them to receive permission. If I didn’t talk to you about the content it’s probably not about you.
• Please keep in mind that I used to be a radio personality and sound engineer. Creating content and writing Bible content along with mental health education is something I’ve been doing on a national level since 2018. I’ve been creating lifestyle and fashion content since 2015. I love what I do and probably won’t stop.
• I know many people have strong opinions about theology and about mental health and about how to use these two fields of study together. In my opinion they go together beautifully and that’s what you will find here.
• Please know that when it comes to faith and what I believe it’s a personal decision. I am a therapist who also believes that Jesus heals. You could also say l am a therapist who is a Christian. My faith gives me the motivation behind therapy, however, it does not change how I practice. You do not have to be a Christian to work with me. I really desire my clients to lead in how they want spirituality to influence their therapy sessions.
I hope these reminders help facilitate a healthy community.

Being a pastors wife is one of weirdest roles out there in my opinion and it is not for the faint of heart. I think we should talk about it more. Definitely been sharing my experience here if you’re curious, if you also have a ministry role, if you are a Christian girl figuring out mental health and faith. 🫶✨#therapyforwomen #pastorswives

Being a pastors wife is one of weirdest roles out there in my opinion and it is not for the faint of heart. I think we should talk about it more. Definitely been sharing my experience here if you’re curious, if you also have a ministry role, if you are a Christian girl figuring out mental health and faith. 🫶✨#therapyforwomen #pastorswives

Apparently my nervous system needed Hilary Duff coming back to the stage. #hilaryduff

Apparently my nervous system needed Hilary Duff coming back to the stage. #hilaryduff

Sappy post coming ✨💖

The Hilary Duff concert had me in tears, and I’ve been trying to understand why. My friend Katie sent me a reel after the concert and it talked about Hilary’s branding. She didn’t rebrand or come back as someone totally different. She came back as herself. She came back showing us that growing up doesn’t mean leaving a part of you behind.

I think so many of us were raised to chase ambition — to go hard after a career, to prove ourselves, to build a life that could stand on its own. And that was important.

But somewhere along the way, I wonder if some of us were never really told how beautiful motherhood could be, too. Or how meaningful it could feel to build a home, love a family, and be present in the moments of life. Sometimes it felt like the very things that are uniquely feminine — tenderness, nurturing, motherhood, softness — were framed as things that would hold us back from becoming who we were supposed to be.

And for a lot of women, that fear is valid. We’ve experienced power dynamics that made motherhood, marriage, and womanhood feel complicated. As millennial women, our experience has looked different from our mothers’. Many of us were raised by dads who told us to have careers and be independent, while also watching men from that same generation remind us that there was still a ceiling — and it was made of glass.

Whether it’s mean-girl dynamics, underpaid overwork, a partner who isn’t showing up as a true teammate, or the constant pressure to give more while being seen less—it can leave you burned out and unable to be fully present.

It was refreshing to see another millennial woman enjoying motherhood, marriage, her family, and her life — while also getting to revisit the favorite parts of the career that shaped her. 🤍🫶💖

✨In comments

#hilaryduffoutfits #hilaryduff

Sappy post coming ✨💖

The Hilary Duff concert had me in tears, and I’ve been trying to understand why. My friend Katie sent me a reel after the concert and it talked about Hilary’s branding. She didn’t rebrand or come back as someone totally different. She came back as herself. She came back showing us that growing up doesn’t mean leaving a part of you behind.

I think so many of us were raised to chase ambition — to go hard after a career, to prove ourselves, to build a life that could stand on its own. And that was important.

But somewhere along the way, I wonder if some of us were never really told how beautiful motherhood could be, too. Or how meaningful it could feel to build a home, love a family, and be present in the moments of life. Sometimes it felt like the very things that are uniquely feminine — tenderness, nurturing, motherhood, softness — were framed as things that would hold us back from becoming who we were supposed to be.

And for a lot of women, that fear is valid. We’ve experienced power dynamics that made motherhood, marriage, and womanhood feel complicated. As millennial women, our experience has looked different from our mothers’. Many of us were raised by dads who told us to have careers and be independent, while also watching men from that same generation remind us that there was still a ceiling — and it was made of glass.

Whether it’s mean-girl dynamics, underpaid overwork, a partner who isn’t showing up as a true teammate, or the constant pressure to give more while being seen less—it can leave you burned out and unable to be fully present.

It was refreshing to see another millennial woman enjoying motherhood, marriage, her family, and her life — while also getting to revisit the favorite parts of the career that shaped her. 🤍🫶💖

✨In comments

#hilaryduffoutfits #hilaryduff

Tinley park was packed!!! It was amazing. 😭 @hilaryduff was surprised but like we weren’t. #hilaryduff

Tinley park was packed!!! It was amazing. 😭 @hilaryduff was surprised but like we weren’t. #hilaryduff

Guys. @hilaryduff was amazing. That’s all. 🌸💖

#hilaryduff #hilaryduffoutfits

Guys. @hilaryduff was amazing. That’s all. 🌸💖

#hilaryduff #hilaryduffoutfits

Some Hilary Duff concert outfit ideas ✨ went out for more color and sparkle came back with… which one? 💖🌸 Marshals really came through! I mean what throwbacks.

Some Hilary Duff concert outfit ideas ✨ went out for more color and sparkle came back with… which one? 💖🌸 Marshals really came through! I mean what throwbacks.

A grounding practice for the eldest daughter

Put one hand on your heart and one hand on your stomach.

Inhale: “I reached for support.”

Exhale: “That was brave.”

Inhale: “I feel disappointed.”

Exhale: “I can stay with myself.”

Inhale: “I am not too much.”

Exhale: “I am worthy of steady care.”

#### **Nervous system safety**

My body is trying to protect me, not betray me.

I can slow down.

I am safe in this moment.

I can take one breath at a time.

I do not have to solve everything right now.

I can come back to myself.

I can release what is not mine.

I am allowed to rest before I am completely depleted.

This is just one of many tools I’ve put in the nervous system first aid kit for eldest daughters. ✨comment FIRST AID✨ for the whole kit. #eldestdaughter

A grounding practice for the eldest daughter

Put one hand on your heart and one hand on your stomach.

Inhale: “I reached for support.”

Exhale: “That was brave.”

Inhale: “I feel disappointed.”

Exhale: “I can stay with myself.”

Inhale: “I am not too much.”

Exhale: “I am worthy of steady care.”

#### **Nervous system safety**

My body is trying to protect me, not betray me.

I can slow down.

I am safe in this moment.

I can take one breath at a time.

I do not have to solve everything right now.

I can come back to myself.

I can release what is not mine.

I am allowed to rest before I am completely depleted.

This is just one of many tools I’ve put in the nervous system first aid kit for eldest daughters. ✨comment FIRST AID✨ for the whole kit. #eldestdaughter

What it takes for a marriage? it takes trust, repair and conflict resolution.

What does it really take for a marriage to last?

Not perfection.

Not avoiding every fight.

Not always agreeing or getting it right the first time.

A healthy marriage is built slowly — through trust, honesty, repair, and the willingness to keep turning toward each other when things feel hard.

The strongest couples are not the ones who never have conflict. They are the ones who learn how to move through conflict with care. They apologize. They listen. They take responsibility. They choose repair over resentment.

Because lasting love is not about never struggling.

It is about learning how to keep choosing each other in the middle of the struggle. #marriagetherapist

What it takes for a marriage? it takes trust, repair and conflict resolution.

What does it really take for a marriage to last?

Not perfection.

Not avoiding every fight.

Not always agreeing or getting it right the first time.

A healthy marriage is built slowly — through trust, honesty, repair, and the willingness to keep turning toward each other when things feel hard.

The strongest couples are not the ones who never have conflict. They are the ones who learn how to move through conflict with care. They apologize. They listen. They take responsibility. They choose repair over resentment.

Because lasting love is not about never struggling.

It is about learning how to keep choosing each other in the middle of the struggle. #marriagetherapist

At least I figured out we could put a baby on his back and that helps. 😅 #couplestherapy

At least I figured out we could put a baby on his back and that helps. 😅 #couplestherapy

I’m ok. ✨🌙 #girlmom #motherhood

I’m ok. ✨🌙 #girlmom #motherhood

We’ve seen it before. If you’ve been through betrayal trauma in your relationship please find a therapist who understands betrayal trauma when it comes to a SA. 🫶🤍 #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery

We’ve seen it before. If you’ve been through betrayal trauma in your relationship please find a therapist who understands betrayal trauma when it comes to a SA. 🫶🤍 #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery

Family photos should preserve connection—not perform perfection. #therapyforwomen

Family photos should preserve connection—not perform perfection. #therapyforwomen

Why is this audio supposed to be over the top but it’s literally my life? Besides learning Japanese. 🤦‍♀️🤣 My brain got a lot quieter when I got the help I needed 🤍✨📓 #eldestdaughter #adhdinwomen #eldestdaughterenergy #therapyforwomen #therapistofinstagram

Why is this audio supposed to be over the top but it’s literally my life? Besides learning Japanese. 🤦‍♀️🤣 My brain got a lot quieter when I got the help I needed 🤍✨📓 #eldestdaughter #adhdinwomen #eldestdaughterenergy #therapyforwomen #therapistofinstagram

Mom Bag Club episode 3 featuring the @boggbags review. Full video in YouTube. Comment shop for links 🤍 #momlife #mommylife

Mom Bag Club episode 3 featuring the @boggbags review. Full video in YouTube. Comment shop for links 🤍 #momlife #mommylife

I love creating spaces that inspire me and also keeps me focused on my goals. Working on finishing my CPTT (certified partner trauma therapist) training this year and going to start my going through the process for my clinical license this year. 🙏 I was talking to my supervisor for betrayal trauma work and she was talking about how she makes doing groups and carrying a caseload possible throughout the year. I needed a visual to picture what possible future group work and workshops may look like. Super excited. 🙌👏

And this is why I am launching three new planners + journals this year. I’m so excited about this. It’s how I am able to work with clients, be a mom and stay creative. I love my planner I created three years ago but I wanted to be able to customize the planner more and to help other build their own systems. If you want to get on the launch list comment JOURNAL

#therapyforwomen #adhd #abundantlymorepodcast #abundantlymoreplanners #abundantlymorejournals

I love creating spaces that inspire me and also keeps me focused on my goals. Working on finishing my CPTT (certified partner trauma therapist) training this year and going to start my going through the process for my clinical license this year. 🙏 I was talking to my supervisor for betrayal trauma work and she was talking about how she makes doing groups and carrying a caseload possible throughout the year. I needed a visual to picture what possible future group work and workshops may look like. Super excited. 🙌👏

And this is why I am launching three new planners + journals this year. I’m so excited about this. It’s how I am able to work with clients, be a mom and stay creative. I love my planner I created three years ago but I wanted to be able to customize the planner more and to help other build their own systems. If you want to get on the launch list comment JOURNAL

#therapyforwomen #adhd #abundantlymorepodcast #abundantlymoreplanners #abundantlymorejournals

Here’s a few podcasts I listened to this week.
@drcarolineleaf is a major reason why I love CBT and neuroscience. I thought the episode on tracking your kids was very needed and helpful. I also enjoyed her take on recovering from narcissistic abuse.

@doctorramani is the best when it comes to a candid conversation about narcissism.

And finally @beingwellpodcast is always one of my faves when it comes to talking about all things mental health. Also love that they are a father son duo. I’m continually wanting to learn more about secure attachment and reparenting. 🤍✨👏

#mentalhealthpodcast #mentalhealthawareness #therapyforwomen

Here’s a few podcasts I listened to this week.
@drcarolineleaf is a major reason why I love CBT and neuroscience. I thought the episode on tracking your kids was very needed and helpful. I also enjoyed her take on recovering from narcissistic abuse.

@doctorramani is the best when it comes to a candid conversation about narcissism.

And finally @beingwellpodcast is always one of my faves when it comes to talking about all things mental health. Also love that they are a father son duo. I’m continually wanting to learn more about secure attachment and reparenting. 🤍✨👏

#mentalhealthpodcast #mentalhealthawareness #therapyforwomen

These are my goals or thoughts on ways I want to parent differently based on the books I’ve read on parenting, attachment, sibling relationships and enmeshment. 🤍 I know I won’t do it perfectly, but I want to stay thoughtful, humble, and willing to grow. My hope is to create a home where my kids feel safe, seen, protected, and free to become who God designed them to be.🫶🙌

#therapyformoms #therapyforwomen

These are my goals or thoughts on ways I want to parent differently based on the books I’ve read on parenting, attachment, sibling relationships and enmeshment. 🤍 I know I won’t do it perfectly, but I want to stay thoughtful, humble, and willing to grow. My hope is to create a home where my kids feel safe, seen, protected, and free to become who God designed them to be.🫶🙌

#therapyformoms #therapyforwomen

Outfit roundup. My love for linen is in full bloom. You can find Amazon favorites in my Amazon store front now and on @shop.ltk ✨🤍 you can also comment SHOP for links #fashionblogger

Outfit roundup. My love for linen is in full bloom. You can find Amazon favorites in my Amazon store front now and on @shop.ltk ✨🤍 you can also comment SHOP for links #fashionblogger

Take a break momma. 🫶✨☀️ #therapyforwomen #momlife

Take a break momma. 🫶✨☀️ #therapyforwomen #momlife

PHRASES THAT STOP A FIGHT

- We are on the same team
- When you do or say ___ it make me feel ______
- I am sorry. I take responsibility for my actions.
- Tell me more and help me understand
- Your needs matter to me
- I need some time to calm down or regulate right now can we come back to this conversation?
- What do you need from me right now?
- I see you’re overwhelmed / stressed / frustrated. How can I help?
- I’m feeling flooded can we come back to this?

Try my email list for more relationship tools - just comment below with EMAIL

#therapyforwomen

PHRASES THAT STOP A FIGHT

- We are on the same team
- When you do or say ___ it make me feel ______
- I am sorry. I take responsibility for my actions.
- Tell me more and help me understand
- Your needs matter to me
- I need some time to calm down or regulate right now can we come back to this conversation?
- What do you need from me right now?
- I see you’re overwhelmed / stressed / frustrated. How can I help?
- I’m feeling flooded can we come back to this?

Try my email list for more relationship tools - just comment below with EMAIL

#therapyforwomen

The empowerment wheel is a great tool by Dr. Sheri Keffer to help couples and individuals notice where they are at when it comes to dealing with control, power dynamics, gaslighting, anger, blame, and defensiveness. Empowerment starts when you take steps towards safety and truth. 🤍🙌✨ I wanted to create a version of it to help me visualize these concepts. Hope this helps!

All content on this platform is for educational purposes and not therapy. #therapyforwomen #betrayaltraumarecovery

The empowerment wheel is a great tool by Dr. Sheri Keffer to help couples and individuals notice where they are at when it comes to dealing with control, power dynamics, gaslighting, anger, blame, and defensiveness. Empowerment starts when you take steps towards safety and truth. 🤍🙌✨ I wanted to create a version of it to help me visualize these concepts. Hope this helps!

All content on this platform is for educational purposes and not therapy. #therapyforwomen #betrayaltraumarecovery

A few bits I took from the podcast @greatness interview with @doctorramani

- Stop taking your good news to people who are threatened by your joy.
- Narcissistic insecurity can make your joy feel like a threat.
- Share your wins with people who can mirror goodness back to you.
- You deserve relationships where your good news is celebrated, not minimized.

#Couplestherapist #betrayaltraumarecovery #therapyforwomen @chuzhaotlr

A few bits I took from the podcast @greatness interview with @doctorramani

- Stop taking your good news to people who are threatened by your joy.
- Narcissistic insecurity can make your joy feel like a threat.
- Share your wins with people who can mirror goodness back to you.
- You deserve relationships where your good news is celebrated, not minimized.

#Couplestherapist #betrayaltraumarecovery #therapyforwomen @chuzhaotlr

I love what I do and our little magical corner of the world. #therapyformoms #therapyforwomen

I love what I do and our little magical corner of the world. #therapyformoms #therapyforwomen

Yes, yes I do. Going to therapy myself has been so beneficial. The first time I went I was blown away at how powerful it was to just be listened to for 50 min. I remember I would just sit in silence with my therapist enjoying that there was no pressure to talk or listen or anything. There was no pressure. And having someone sit with me in a season of life when I didn’t have anyone to sit with me changed my brain chemistry. #therapyforwomen #therapybyhannah #mentalhealth

Yes, yes I do. Going to therapy myself has been so beneficial. The first time I went I was blown away at how powerful it was to just be listened to for 50 min. I remember I would just sit in silence with my therapist enjoying that there was no pressure to talk or listen or anything. There was no pressure. And having someone sit with me in a season of life when I didn’t have anyone to sit with me changed my brain chemistry. #therapyforwomen #therapybyhannah #mentalhealth

Fun thrifting haul! Love a good oversized blazer + a sweatshirt from a college I didn’t go to. 😏🙌👌✨👏

#thrifthaul #vintagefinds #vintageclothes

Fun thrifting haul! Love a good oversized blazer + a sweatshirt from a college I didn’t go to. 😏🙌👌✨👏

#thrifthaul #vintagefinds #vintageclothes

Your value as a person, your identity, your worth as a human is so much more than what you DO for others. Even if the people in your life may have communicated or allowed you to feel that way. You are worthy to be cared for too 🫶

A gentle reframe is to practice noticing value that is not attached to caretaking.

- You are worthy when you rest.
- You are worthy when you say no.
- You are worthy when you do not fix someone’s mood.

If this resonates will you drop a EMAIL below and I’ll put you in my email list 💌 with more resources for eldest daughters.

#eldestdaughter #eldestdaughter❤️

Your value as a person, your identity, your worth as a human is so much more than what you DO for others. Even if the people in your life may have communicated or allowed you to feel that way. You are worthy to be cared for too 🫶

A gentle reframe is to practice noticing value that is not attached to caretaking.

- You are worthy when you rest.
- You are worthy when you say no.
- You are worthy when you do not fix someone’s mood.

If this resonates will you drop a EMAIL below and I’ll put you in my email list 💌 with more resources for eldest daughters.

#eldestdaughter #eldestdaughter❤️

As a little girl I loved Cinderella. She was always my favorite. I signed Rhema up for a princess afternoon a few months ago since she asks to watch or sing or dance to “ice” which she means “frozen”. 😂 but once she met Cinderella she didn’t leave her side. It was magical. The moms around me noticed how much she loved Cinderella.

I know she is her own person and I am truly excited to keep watching who she becomes. That being said, there’s definitely some unmistakable personality traits we share. I find myself having so much compassion for my younger self too as I watch her be a big sister, experience life for the first time, and make friends. Was not prepared for how protective I am of her and if anyone ever says,

“she needs a strong man to keep her in check” (i cannot tell you how many times i heard that)
or “she’s too opinionated”
or “she’s too much”

I will definitely use my eldest daughter trait and speak my mind. Nope 👎

she is kind, so empathetic, wisely cautious, brave, and complete just the way she is. And I love how independent she is but also she knows who her people are. It’s wild how you can see that already in her adorable personality as a two year old.

I want to always be the person she feels she can be safe with. I want to make sure she knows she can come to me when she needs comfort and to not be so strong. She will always be my baby. That doesn’t change just because she has other siblings.

Just some thoughts from an eldest daughter raising an eldest daughter. 🤍 #eldestdaughter #eldestdaughter❤️

As a little girl I loved Cinderella. She was always my favorite. I signed Rhema up for a princess afternoon a few months ago since she asks to watch or sing or dance to “ice” which she means “frozen”. 😂 but once she met Cinderella she didn’t leave her side. It was magical. The moms around me noticed how much she loved Cinderella.

I know she is her own person and I am truly excited to keep watching who she becomes. That being said, there’s definitely some unmistakable personality traits we share. I find myself having so much compassion for my younger self too as I watch her be a big sister, experience life for the first time, and make friends. Was not prepared for how protective I am of her and if anyone ever says,

“she needs a strong man to keep her in check” (i cannot tell you how many times i heard that)
or “she’s too opinionated”
or “she’s too much”

I will definitely use my eldest daughter trait and speak my mind. Nope 👎

she is kind, so empathetic, wisely cautious, brave, and complete just the way she is. And I love how independent she is but also she knows who her people are. It’s wild how you can see that already in her adorable personality as a two year old.

I want to always be the person she feels she can be safe with. I want to make sure she knows she can come to me when she needs comfort and to not be so strong. She will always be my baby. That doesn’t change just because she has other siblings.

Just some thoughts from an eldest daughter raising an eldest daughter. 🤍 #eldestdaughter #eldestdaughter❤️

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